not finished when your're defeated....
your're finished when you quit."
A "Child in Trouble" is one who demonstrates any of the following:
- Failing in school
- Causes discipline problems at school
- Defiant to rules or authority
- Uses drugs or alcohol
- Violent or abusive
- Runs away
- Has been involved in shoplifting
- Cutting classes or drops out of school
- Can't keep a job
- Has been in trouble with the law
- Has sleazy friends
- Involved in gangs
- Lies constantly
- Engages in irresponsible sex
- Out of control
- Fits your definition of being in trouble
A "Child in Trouble" does NOT need:
- Phone in kid's room
- Unlimited phone use
- Freedom to "Hang Out"
- Unsupervised trips to the mall, bowling alley, movies, etc...
- Freedom to ride in a car without adult supervision
- Freedom to have friends in house without adult supervison
- Wimpy parents!
- Freedom to associate with friends for whom parents do not have names, addresses, and
- Bank ATM card
- Credit Cards
- Private phone line
- TV in their room
- Unenforced curfew
- Freedom to be at a friend's house or party without adult supervision
- Freedom to leave home or go anywhere without permission
A "Child in Trouble" DOES need:
- Consistence and follow-through
- Held accountable for activities and time spent
- Nosey parents who check up on the kid's whereabouts
- Good role models
- Parents who get to know the kid's friends and friend's parents
- Someone to lean on
- Help in developing a hobby or area of interest
- Firm rules
- Involvement in family activities
- To know where parents stand and that they are united
- Homework supervision
- Parents who get involved with the school
- Other responsible adults who get involved in the kid's life
- Hugs and Love
- Parents who spend a lot of time with the child
- Support from others
- Help in making friends and help in developing appropriate relationships with friends
Submit a question to ADSG or Trauma
can only be happy when they do not assume that the object of life is happiness."
"It takes both rain and
sunshine to make a rainbow."