Can my partner be suffering from Attachment Disorder?

[Chel]

Hi
 I've just learnt about attachment disorder and apparently been told that the conditions affects children in their early years.  I'm not sure how much love and attention my partner got in the first few years of life all I do know is that when he was young his parents separated and his mum left with his older two sisters and left him with his dad. Something he has never come to terms with and alway complains about and he's 37 now.  He gets on well with his mum but his dad seems a bit more distant.  He got in to no end of trouble when he was younger, spent a period of time in prision and in the past from what he tells me been a nasty piece of work, using drink to hide from the world and getting him to more trouble.  He is very difficult to live with.  He has to be right and talks badly to most people he has his opinon and thats right, although he cant see that.  But even my 11 year old son has commented on this.  He has loads of friends and acquatancies, but dosnt keep close friends.  He always finds fault in them and assumes they are not loyal because of their faults.  He says he loves me and use to constantly want me to ring him etc., but I've stopped that now and I have found him checking my phone on many occasions, although hes the one I know has had affairs in the past not me.   He has very low self confidence but wont admit it.  And his reading and writing are poor, although he says hes dyslexic, I think this is more from a lack of education as he was a disruptive child and had a low attention span.

Would this be classed as attachment disorder or not? 

Oh and can I get spell check on here?

[teresa]

Hi and welcome....

It's hard to say if he has AD or not..... there are some links on the home page in the books and articles forum that you could check out.  I believe there are checklists similar to what a psych dr would use to diagnose someone.

I think there's a way to set up spell check but I don't know how... chris who's a member on here does... you could try sending her a private message...

Best wishes,


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[chris]

Hi and welcome. He sounds like he is demonstrating some AD symptoms, but I think there is more than that going on. I’m dyslexic and I know a few other people that are as well. Being dyslexic can make things frustrating in school.  I have argued with people as I did what they told me to do, but what they say and what they mean are 2 different things. I don’t curb my responses and lying is difficult for me, as well as other people with dyslexia. We usually find coping skills and look at things differently than others. most of us have high IQ’s, mine is about 150, could have been higher.
It sounds like he may have been abused in his younger years and prison has been known to cause post traumatic stress and other issues. It sounds as though he has some narcissist sings as well. my daughters father is constantly on us due to his low image. He makes up all sorts of stuff to make us feel bad.
I was never able to down load the spell check after switching computers, but if it makes you feel better you can open your word program while on line and write what you want to say then cut and paste it to the posting part. I do that, but no one really cares about spelling.
Regardless of his issue, we can be good to vent to. Good luck, hope to hear from you soon.