Becky

The first year of our adoption went by so fast... We were living in a fantasy world... now it seems to get better at times and there are days when I'm at the end of my rope... I am having trouble bonding with Mandie age 7. There are times I don't even like her, which makes me hate my self. I have often wondered if our children would have been better off with a mother who has more patience with her, but then there our days that we all just click. Mandies habitual lying and the way she just controls you is very hard to deal with. I don't know how to deal with her lying.. and the lies are so silly. We are in counciling, and her brother and her take turns going every other week, it seems when it is Anthonys turn, she stirs up trouble just because shes not going. I would'nt trade my children for anything... I just wish I knew how to deal with the every day struggles of an RAD child.

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