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Joy
June 1,1999
Our son is 11 years old and we think RAD. I {Joy} have three older children and Pat is the
child of my second son. First I guess you need to know a little about me. I married a man
with two children that he got custody of after we were married. We had one child together,
and then he left before we were married two years. He made sure when he got custody of his
two boys that I was not included, so I legally had no rights where these children were
concerned. He left me with all three boys and when I was 20 I became a single mom with
three boys, ages 1,4 1/2 and 5 1/2. He held the no legal rights over my head so I was not
able to divorce him till the two oldest boys were much older. David, my second
"son" is Patrick's bio dad. He got involved with a young girl while he was in
the Air Force. They broke up but before they broke up she had quit taking her birth
control. After they broke up she informed David that she was going to have their baby.
David did marry her, but not till Pat was 7 months old. They were married less than a year
because she was running around and ran off with a guy to another state. During David's
divorce, while bio mom had Pat, he discovered Pat was being abused. {I really think he
knew before this but couldn't believe it} He went to court and got custody of Pat. Two
months after he got Pat the Air Force told him he was going to Germany and because he was
a single parent, Pat could not go for at least 9 months. That's when my new husband and I
got Pat. Sonny and I had been married just a month before Pat came to us.
Pat had a very unstable life before coming to us. He was never with one caregiver for
longer than 2 months. Even when his bio parents were together, his mom keep dropping him
off with her parents or anyone who would take him.
We've had Pat since he was 26 months old. We knew he was an unhappy child, but just
thought he need more love. This past Jan. things started to really get out of hand. We
could not control Pat at all. He started to talk about suicide, then started to talk about
killing us. We have tried to find help but with no insurance that will cover this and the
state won't help because Pat wasn't put up for open adoption, we have had trouble finding
any. We were seeing a therapist, who said he had experience with kids with Rad, but we
soon knew he wasn't helping Pat at all. He let Pat have complete control. We are now
trying to get into Dr. Keck's Clinic in Cleveland, Ohio.
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