Maggy

When I was 18 years old I found myself in a terribly difficult situation with 2 small children and no support to speak of. I was evicted out of my apt and had nowhere to go. I asked my social worker to take my daughter, who was 2, for a few months until I could find a home and get help with my life, my son went with his father. During the next couple months my social worker took my rights away and began to make very controling expectations on me as mother, even though I had my son back, because the state never had the rights to him, and I might add, never took him from me in all of the 3 years Heather was gone, seems to me I must of been doing something right. It wasnt until 3 years later and another social worker later who finally gave her back to me. The first night she was home I knew I was in for a hard road. After throwing a temper tanrum which lasted so long that the nieghbors called the police I thought, oh boy my social worker wasnt kidding when she said that Heather has some problems. My first thought was, what happened to my little girl who loved me so much. She wanted nothing to do with hugs and kept her distance from me at all times. When I got to close she would become devil child. My daughter is now in a group home and is 13 years old. I have been through hell and back with her and I have been told that Heather is a very sick young lady with a condition called Reactive Attachment Disorder. Now, my question is why after years of counceling nobody ever told me that. I was told that Heather was fine and I needed to deal with the guilt and fear that she is broken. Instead it was my parenting that was suppose to be focused on. I am now being told that A lot of parents dont even stick it out this long. And now I am getting pats on the back. I am very confused. I just miss my little girl!!!!

-Maggy